'Ghosting' The Dating Problem Everyone Is Talking About

Have you experienced ghosting before?  

The term ‘ghosting’ is being used more frequently but is in face relatively new – ‘ghosting’ is a new verb that refers to ending a romantic relationship or interest by cutting off all contact and ignoring all attempts of contact.

A recent survey found that from 185 people that approximately 14% of men and 27% of women had been ghosts at some point in their lives.

This phenomenon isn't new but in an era of dating apps like Tinder and OKCupid when matchmaking often happens by swiping right and left makes potential daters literally disposable so ghosting has become much more common.

Have App's And Online Dating Has Allowed Ghosting To Increase?
Logan Levkoff, sexologist and expert from shows like "Married At First Sight" explained that online dating and apps take the humanity out of the process a bit, which could make users prone to being ghosted. "[Because] all it takes is a swipe," she said. "The quantity [of how many people experience ghosting] is more because it's so easy to do and it requires very little human engagement in order to do it."

Because Breaking Can Be Tough
We don’t actually like to disappoint anyone or let anyone down so being honest that a relatioship (no matter how early on) isn't going anywhere is really difficult - a study done in 2012 reported that there are seven types of breakup strategies with confrontation being ‘the best way to breakup’, and ghosting the least ideal method to end a relationship. A more recent study reported the same finding suggesting we still feel the same. Only 13% of 1,000 adults consider breaking up via email or text ‘very appropriate’ or ‘somewhat appropriate’.

Let's Be Honest
Levkoff said that it’s nice to be able to say to someone, 'Listen I've enjoyed getting to know you, but I don't think this is going to move forward in a romantic way,' because you’re being up front and honest to them and yourself. Would you want to be left staring at your phone for the next fortnight wondering if you’ve done something wrong?

Why Are So Many People Experiencing ‘Ghosting’?
Our feelings change about a lot of things... about a band, about a food, about certain things you thought were fun that you don’t think are fun anymore and it’s ok for this to happen in a relationship but be a grown up about it.

Is Ghosting Wrong?
Yes, lack of response from someone you like feels rubbish! It's a cowardly move.

Even celebrities, the last people who you’d think could slip away aren’t immune to getting ghosted. Reports suggest Charlize Theron broke up with Sean Penn recently by ghosting him - and they were actually engaged to be married - friends say she thought it was the simplest solution to stop responding to his calls!


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